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30 Days to a Better Stepfamily – Day 26

30 Days to a Better Stepfamily – Day 26

I want to share with you some communication that took place between Doc and me early in our marriage.  I have mentioned more than one, that I had a lot of growing up to do to be a stepmother.  In the beginning, I cried…A LOT!  Here is how we tried to lighten it up!

 

Here is my poem to Doc:

 

Why am I such a crying Geek?

Why not just stand up and speak?

 

Are my intentions always so wrong?

Is there more to life than a mourner’s song?

 

The little things – they make me crazy!

Yet, when I distance myself, I feel I am lazy.

 

I try to help as a stepmom, or nanny,

Yet, I end up defeated, and look like a …fanny!

 

Each person in my life is a piece of twine,

They weave my tapestry, my reasons, my rhyme.

 

Some threads I don’t want, they mess up my view!

But, the contrast in place, accents the hues.

 

Forgive me for crying and stirring up trouble,

I pray for us peace and love that will double.

 

Doc’s response to this poem:

 

So stop all the crying and dry up your tears,

You’ve got kids in the house for fourteen more years.

 

You’re not a geek, and you’re not crazy; and, one thing’s for sure,

You damn sure not lazy!

 

Gird up your loins, put your mind at ease,

Occasionally we all suffer from mad cow disease!

 

Being calmly available, even when not needed,

Just love them and treat them as you want to be treated.

 

Never expect to be treated as well,

The high expectations will put you in hell.

 

So, roll with the punches, Christ is your teacher,

That big heart He gave you is your finest feature.

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Back off, ladies, he is mine!  Learn to play and laugh in adversity with your spouse; because, he is the one you are left with when all is said and done.

 

Linking with Sandra Oakley and Emily over at her place Chatting at the Sky

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Posted by Diane W. Bailey on December 18, 2012
5 Comments Post a comment
  1. 12/18/2012

    Hi Diane,

    Nice to meet you. I’m hopping over from Shanda’s link up. Thanks for sharing your story of being a stepmom, and your man’s sweet response. Marriages and family are an adventure, but worth it, huh? 🙂

    Have a great week.

    Jennifer Dougan
    http://www.jenniferdougan.com

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    • 12/18/2012

      Glad to meet you Jennifer! Yes, it is an adventure like no other and a journey I would not have missed for the world. Merry Christmas!

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  2. 12/18/2012

    Loved this Di ~!! Merry Christmas from my house to yours. Have loved the step family series- honest and full of helpfulness. God Bless you and yours.

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    • 12/19/2012

      Merry Christmas, Mary, My dear friend! God bless you double with joy this Christmas season and into New Year! Love you!

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    • 12/19/2012

      Merry Christmas, Sweet Mary. I received your Christmas Letter and loved meeting your beautiful family. Love you to and yours. ~Di

      Reply

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