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Combating Betrayal

He heals the broken-hearted

and binds up their sorrows.

Psalms 147:3  

Nothing is more devastating than being betrayed by an intimate friend.

Someone who knows all our secrets.

Someone who shares the same friends and church.

Maybe it is something small, like your private business running through all those circles. You confided a prayer request to a friend over coffee one morning, only to discover that the entire ball park knows about it before you arrive that afternoon. Maybe a friend at work turned out to be an enemy in sheep’s clothing, who took all your work as her own and received your credit and promotion. Or maybe you walked into to work and were the object of razor-tongued women who had chosen you for their “rip-up” target of the day. Perhaps you have experienced a husband running away, or the double whammy of a husband and a friend running off together.

Sometimes life can become so difficult that our faith is shaken and pulled to the point that we wonder if we have the faith to get up and face another day! The pain that comes from such a loss is followed by the mental ruminations that can torment us until our last breath if we don’t deal with them. We hold on to so much in our hearts and in our minds.

Did you realize that this all began in the garden of Eden?

Yes, it is part of the consequences God handed down to Eve. She wanted to know what God knew. In learning that, she was also allowed to know the heart of God. She learned, as do all women, the sorrow of a broken heart.

In Genesis 3:14 God says to Eve, “I will greatly multiply your pain in childbirth, in pain you shall bring forth children; yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” Notice that there was no curse. God did not curse His children, but as any good parent, He handed down consequences that fit the heinous sin of rebellion.

The Lord God said that the pain of childbirth would increase, so there must have been a measure of pain from the start. The word pain occurs twice in the sentence. The first time, the Hebrew word is itstsabown, physical pain, and it can also be translated as sorrow, labor, or labor in childbirth. It is the same word God uses for Adam as he worked the land that was now cursed.

Etseb is the second word for pain. It is a thing shaped or formed, an earthen vessel, labor, toil, trouble, grievance. Matthew Henry Commentary calls this pain a state of sorrow. According to Webster’s College Dictionary, sorrow means mental suffering caused by loss, disappointment, grief, sadness, or regret. So there is not only physical pain associated with childbirth; there is also emotional pain with forming these earthen vessels in the way they should go. Even though raising children causes sorrow, those children are also a source of great joy. We laugh with them as well as cry with them, and we rejoice in their victories as though they were our own.

We live in a fallen world. We all face the consequences of sin, but remember that we have not been left alone. Jesus sent us His Holy Spirit to comfort and guide us through all the sorrow, fears, and tears. Jesus knows it’s hard on this side of heaven, and He stays near to help us in our struggle.

His goal is not for us to struggle, but through the struggle to enable our faith to grow, and our relationship to grow, into oneness with Him.

Trust Jesus to be all that you need in the crisis that you find yourself in today.  Trust is faith activated across time.

I’m posting excerpts from my book, String of Pearls this week.  And Linking with Imperfect Prose, and Raising Mighty  Arrows, and Write it girl

Posted by Diane W. Bailey on June 21, 2012
19 Comments Post a comment
  1. 06/21/2012

    Love the posts.
    Had to order the book.
    Can’t wait 🙂
    Hugs to you, Di!

    • 06/21/2012

      God has blessed me so much in you, Susan. Thank you for ordering, but mostly for being my friend. Hugs to you! ~Di

  2. 06/21/2012

    Hi Diane,
    I hopped over from Write It, Girl! Great to “meet” you! Wonderful post filled with so much truth. I love the lines, “His goal is not for us to struggle, but through the struggle to enable our faith to grow, and our relationship to grow, into oneness with Him…Trust is faith activated across time.” Amen, friend!

    • 06/21/2012

      Nice to meet you, Kristen. Thank you for leaving a comment!

    • 06/21/2012

      Nice to meet you Kristen! Thank you, so much for stopping by and commenting. Hope we get to talk together more! ~Di

  3. 06/21/2012

    Just beautiful. I really resonate with your words, particularly about friendship and betrayal. So nice to connect with you via Write It, Girl! 🙂


    • 06/21/2012

      Rosann, Glad to meet you. Women can be so supportive to one another and then sometimes we can be so hurtful. I’m sorry that you are familar with that hurting. I know we are going to get alone wonderfully!

  4. 06/21/2012

    Hello…from Write it, Girl link up. So much truth in this post about our fallen world. If I think about it for too long, I get overwhelmed and sad. So glad that we have Jesus to take all that anxiety away. Thanks for sharing!!

    • 06/21/2012

      Oh, I don’t want to bring you down. But things happen to us that is not very fun somtimes. Thank you for opening your blog to us to link up with you. This was my first time on your blog. I hope the relationship grows. ~Di

  5. 06/22/2012

    Diane, you have so many gifts… Writing, photography… Kindness. Amazed by Gods work in you.

    • 06/22/2012

      I miss hearing from you! Thank you for your kindnesses as well. Let’s please keep in touch!

      • 06/22/2012

        Always 🙂 Let me know what you think about my latest blog post – I miss the feedback 🙂

      • 06/22/2012

        I’ll get by there today. Thank you!

  6. 06/22/2012

    So true – the point is not the struggle but the faith it leads to.

    Thanks for linking up with Write It, Girl!

    • 06/22/2012

      Thank you for opening up Write It, Girl for us to link up, and for stopping by to comment! ~Di

  7. 06/22/2012
    tara pohlkotte

    i know the pain of betrayal. you speak to it here so well. but through it comes rebirth. renewal.

    • 06/22/2012

      I’m so sorry that you have experienced this kind of Pain, Tara. I love that you share of rebirth and renewal from it!

  8. 06/22/2012

    I think one of the things I don’t look forward to in parenting is the recognition by children that they can’t trust people, that people will hurt and disappoint. But it is what we do with it that matters. Letting it shape us, grow us into who He wants us to be. Hope you are doing well Diane, its been a while.

    • 06/23/2012

      Oh, Shelly I am with you! We want to protect them, but teaching them the proper way to respond, according to the Sermon on the Mount is their greatest survivle skill.


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